Thursday, October 28, 2010

Long Winded Spiel



^ I put this picture up for a plethora of reasons, getting into my whole "beliefs" since I never actually said specifically any beliefs I do have.

Well, I'm very open when it comes to relationships. Not in a weird, "let's all get married to each other!!", but more of a "people like other people and it's not really their fault." I don't judge people for being in a same-gender relationship any moreso than I do for people who go into a trans-gender relationship. Saying it like that, it sounds like heterosexual relationships involve transvestites..

Either way, this belief has nothing to do with how I was raised, since if that were the case, I'd be burning people and just doing a lot of hateful, violent crime. It was more of something I learned by myself and came to appreciate. The world is a tough place to be in, especially if you're alone and then doubly so if you're of a "weird" sexual orientation. The world hasn't wholly accepted homosexuals and they are painted in a strange light. Research is being done to figure out why people are their specific orientation, thinking maybe a gene causes or something else.

I think the reason why people are homosexual is because they just are. There's no "genetic defect" that turns out gay babies. It's normal and definitely not something people should be ostracized for. Maybe I'm biased, because as I discussed with Ricky today, I find guy/guy relationships interesting. Girl/Girl relationships mostly piss me off, because of the connotations in that, but it's not my cup of tea regardless.

Preferences aside, I don't think its a crime to want to have someone there that loves you and you have those feelings back for them. There's nothing wrong with love or loving. I hate that homosexual relationships are written off as immoral or bizarre. I think there is no problem with someone having deep, passionate feelings for the same gender.

On the same coin, however, I don't think marriage should be allowed for them. *Cue the traitor sticks to fly in*

It's really strange, but I'm okay with everything else that accompanies that sort of lifestyle, except the want to marry. This is mostly a religious conflict, because God knows everything has to be in this life. I'm relatively open-minded about some pretty radical things, but marriage encompassing all relationships kind of makes me retreat into my mind cave and refuse to crawl out.

I know children raised in that sort of dad/dad or mom/mom relationship aren't negatively affected; if they are its probably more due to the fact they'll be ridiculed. This growing portion of our population that reigns in for their own team wants marriage for financial benefits, legal issues, and maybe for love. I'm not opposed to them living together or acting like they are conjoined, but marriage is a religious founded event. I'm not saying God hates gays - on the contrary, I think he loves everyone just the same. My problem lies in the fact that most people who even want to consider marriage, gay or straight alike, don't marry for religious reasons as well as love. The point to me of marriage is to ground yourself with someone with similar beliefs so you can grow together in your faith.

I sound like I'm back at Verot in Burbs's religion class. But that to me is the point of marriage. You found someone you want to commit to for the rest of your life; they make you into a better person spiritually, mentally, and emotionally. The spiritual aspect for me is a big portion of marriage and it gets lost on all orientations when they want to get married. I'm not so supremely Catholic that I'd only marry within my religion, but I'd want my kids to have some sort of religious foundation, because that's like a column. I feel like religion is not necessary to grow into an outstanding citizen, but I definitely think religion makes for a good foundation. Most people falter when they don't believe in a higher power - others blossom into their own unique individual preferring to believe in the flying spaghetti monster or praising Bob Marley as God.

My stance on so many issues is so complicated and dependent on the circumstances. This is why I don't discuss my beliefs, because I don't even know where I'm going with this. I guess as a final note I will say this: I feel like more states should provide homosexual relationships the means of getting "married" but not getting the title that goes along with it. I forget what it's called specifically, but I think it's a start and may lead to more changes should society finally deem it to be appropro.

4 comments:

  1. Haha your belief makes sense to me! I agree with you, though not about preferring male/male relationships(I don't have a preference, though I know what you mean about the connotations of female/female relationships). I don't mind people being with who they love but idk maybe its wrong but I think they should just stick to being "life partners" and not be called married.

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  2. that's the term I wanted! I couldn't think of what it was called - if girl/girl relationships weren't so overly sexualized by the media, I think I'd be okay with real life relationships of that nature too. That's a whole other blog though!! =P

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  3. Haha I can separate real life female/female relationships and the over sexualized versions from the media! I look forward to that blog too then! 8D Im glad I was able to provide you with the term that you were looking for!

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  4. I don't know about marriage, but they should be allowed the same benefits of marriage in a civil partnership. If their partner is in the hospital, the person isn't allowed to see his/her partner because they aren't family. I know it's more complicated in that regard, but I still haven't eaten breakfast yet so that's the best we're going to get from me right now.

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