Would You Ever

re-marry if your spouse died when you were 40?

I think I wouldn't be able to.

I realize it's somewhat presumptuous of me to just say, "No! I'd never do that", so I'm leaving it at the fact that I really don't think I'd be able to re-marry. Main reason being, I don't think I could get over my spouse completely enough to be able to handle another marriage to some one else other than who I originally picked. A lot of things about couples that do this bothers me. In my opinion, it almost makes me feel like they never really loved their original spouse, and maybe that's a very childish way of looking at things. I can understand re-marrying after a divorce, but a death is so much more serious, because it wasn't your choice for them to pass (for the most part). It just kinda happens randomly, or maybe it happens due to their life choices, but it's never something like a divorce which is mutually accepted (once again, for the most part).

I feel like it's a selfish reason to re-marry after that sort of experience, because for me, it's like you NEED someone, anyone, to fill their gap. I don't know, it might just be me that feels this strongly about not re-marrying. I'm also this passionate about other intimate activities. I just feel like it's a kick in the face to your deceased spouse to say or do things with someone new.

Maybe if young kids were in the mix that'd be different, but even then, I really don't think I could bring myself to just move on and forget.

Would you ever be able to do that? Why/Why not?