Monday, April 26, 2010

10 Things I Hate About You



God, I want to watch this movie! haha I think there's something about love stories that clicks with me. Maybe because I'm a girl, but I'd like to think guys could appreciate some aspect of a love story, even if they appreciate the physical stuff =P

Love stories make my heart skip. I love seeing people in love or falling into it and I always have. Ever since I was a little kid watching Disney princess movies dreaming that I could be a princess, I've always been this little romantic that believes in a love that would triumph all obstacles. Maybe I've set myself up to get constantly knocked down by reality, because not all love is perfect. Rarely will you find a love like in Disney and maybe that's where I went wrong. I always thought that love was like a calm river, sure there would be obstacles and ripples along it, but it maintained the serenity and beauty it had. Love isn't like that though; it's tumultuous, rocky, and it some moments it plain sucks. For me, I'll never understand why certain things have happened in the course of my relationship with Ricky, because it hasn't been a walk in the park like I thought it would be. When you bring two very strong personalities together, there is a clash because it's not their norm; it's a constant struggle on trying to find a balance. Some people can't handle the struggle and lash out, some submit and stay quiet, some leave and give up: everyone reacts differently.

Movies and TV shows only show certain sides of relationships, that's why it's so magical and that's what makes girls swoon and melt. The punk, troublemaker, criminal bad boy falls in love with the smart, quiet, nice girl for who she is, rather than the "fun" he could have with her. That's like every single girl's dream, so of course it's going to be shown in the media, right? I think by having these pre-conceived notions we set ourselves up for pain, because nothing happens quite like how the media portrays them. I mean, the Rihanna getting hit by Chris Brown incident mirrors real life more so than any Disney movie. It's not pretty; it's not perfect; it's not stable, but I'd like to think with effort and copious amounts of time solutions may be discovered.

I've never expected a Hollywood stylized romance, but at the same time I always have. I know it's not realistic to think a guy could love me for just me, that there's no other ultimate deciding factors behind it. I know it's not realistic to expect to always be happy, but that's what I want; I want rays of sunshine always, because I can't stand cloudy days or hurricanes. I know it's not realistic to think the past won't affect the present, but I'll always think that previous actions won't affect the now. It's not realistic to expect fair fights with no revenge from either side; people are very spiteful and some hold onto that for ammunition.

Maybe I have a twisted sense about what love is, but I can only talk from my experience of it. Yes, there are good and happy times, and yes, they may outweigh the bad (hopefully). It's just wrong not to expect a rain storm here and there. There's always going to be lightning and thunder in a relationship: it's only a matter of how you handle it.

"I hate the way you talk to me and the way you cut your hair. I hate the way you drive my car. I hate it when you stare. I hate your big dumb combat boots and the way you read my mind. I hate you so much it makes me sick. It even makes me rhyme. I hate it… I hate the way you’re always right. I hate it when you lie. I hate it when you make me laugh; Even worse when you make me cry. I hate it when you’re not around. And the fact that you didn’t call. But mostly I hate the way I don’t hate you; Not even close, not even a little bit, not even at all." -10 Things I Hate About You

2 comments:

  1. HOW I HANDLE WHAT!!!!???? nooo dont leave me hanging like this! HOW I HANDLE WHAT!!!!!!!!!!?????? Also along with good outweighing the bad, at least i tend to think this, there should be balance between the good and the bad! 8P

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  2. you're such a dork =P i don't even understand your comment!!

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