So on Dr. Oz the other day, probably some ill-forgotten Wednesday or I'm actually talking about yesterday and I refuse to acknowledge that fact, he was reveling 6 secrets that husbands keep from their wives. This is obviously something that women question about and something that I was curious about as well.
While some of the secrets were no brainers, such as "They think they are smarter than their wives" and "They wish their wives made more money," one of the secrets really bothered me. It was also the very first secret revealed as well and apparently they asked men who these secrets apply to to hold the signs.
First secret was the fact that men fantasize about other women while having sex. When this was revealed, the husband openly admitted in front of his wife that he does this and the wife said they had discussed this before in the past and that she fantasizes about other men as well. Cue Jessica's rant to come into play!!
How is this okay? Call me old fashioned, but I can't comprehend this "secret." If both men and women are fantasizing about other people while they are married, what's the point of marriage? Another one of the secrets was the fact that men masturbate in secret. That's semi-reasonable at least. When you're 40 or so, I can imagine you aren't going at it like rabbits anymore and instead it might be a one day a week event. However, the fantasizing thing is something I can't get passed.
One of the statements made after that secret was revealed was that "men and women are not created for monogamous relationships." If this was the case, why did those relationships even start? Why don't we just all have open relationships where we can do whoever we want with no stigma attached to it? Oh, yeah, that's right. Because it's a bunch of crock. Another statement was that "men have a more powerful sex drive due to the billions of sperm being produced daily and they need a release. Men are desirous of other women but won't act on it, so they use having sex with their wives while imagining their wives' sister as a means to cope." O rly. I'm sorry but if my husband was having issues with wanting to bang my sister, I would not want to have sexual relations with him. Ever. Chances are I wouldn't even be married to him.
I don't think feelings of "true love" gives the husbands in that instance a free pass. "Oh, you wish you could have sex with my sister? Why don't you take all of your things and move out too?" I'd probably be the wife from Hell, but I really don't think I could handle that or even look at it as "natural." I don't even care if they wouldn't act on their desires in actuality, I'd feel like some sort of floozy if I was just satisfying my husband's inner desire to bang whatever female he has sexual feelings towards. Seriously. What the hell is the world coming to when fantasizing about someone else is considered healthy and normal and not a sign of warning?
Maybe I'm weird or strange, but it's really unsettling. I don't get the point of marriage anymore, I guess. I just don't understand why people decide to tie the knot if the knot doesn't mean anything except a wedding band and some flimsy promise than is getting broken thousands of times a year. It's disgusting to me.
Maybe I'm also bizarre for not having fantasies about male celebrities. I've never imagined doing anything with Johnny Depp, even though I will admit to finding him attractive. It's just weird. I don't get the point of fantasizing about someone I could never hope to have - maybe that's the appeal? I'm not quite sure.
Dr. Oz definitely instilled in me the incentive to get married.
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